BUY BOOK: LEAVING BABYLON
Leaving Babylon pgs. 131-132
In addition to the issue of her lost beauty, Eve pines for the attention and love of Adam. After the curse, her eyes were turned from God to Adam. “Yet your desire and craving will be for your husband, and he will rule over you” (Genesis 3:16b, amp). She longs for him to notice her and for him to tell her she is beautiful. Eve competes with her sisters for his attention. They all pine after Adam and fight as the spirit of insecurity dictates to their hearts. She longs for him, desperately, although he is imperfect and will eventually hurt her. He rules over her with flaws. Adam does not always hurt Eve intentionally; he will hurt her because he, too, is cursed. He must work by the sweat of his brow to provide for Eve and his family, but the provisions will elude him, for the world is fallen. What was given to him in the garden must now be worked for. We will explore his curse later.
Previously, Eve was infused with the Holy Spirit, and, therefore, she had all of the perfect attributes of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Gal. 5:22–23). She was balanced in her love for Adam, because her first love was God, and she believed in His perfect love for her. She loved Adam through the love of God, peacefully and fulfilled. She put no pressure on him, because God was her source of provision and security.
In Babylon, Adam is burdened with trying to please Eve who is never satisfied. Eve is ever nagging him to do better and to perform for her, to love her better, to protect her better, and to make her more secure. Adam tries, but he can never fulfill the longing in Eve that was once met by God in the garden.
Sometimes, Eve becomes bitter because Adam has disappointed and hurt her too many times. In Babylon, she learns to resent and sometimes hate Adam. She continues to pine for Adam, but she is afraid of him and, therefore, walls herself in to protect herself.
Now as Eve lives afraid and walled in, Babylon offers her ways to control her life and the people around her. As her heart craves the imperfect and fallible Adam, she learns to lie and manipulate him, believing this will help her feel safe as the spirit of insecurity is her constant companion.